It's August, and you know what that means... it's officially back to school season! For most of you parents of children who are going back to school this fall, we know just how bittersweet this month can be. You're celebrating that your kids are FINALLY doing something productive after spending all summer catching Pokémon, but at the same time you're dreading going back to the routine of waking up at 6 A.M. to take them to school through the hellish traffic. Well here at the Nelson Realty Group, we too are going through this back to school season with you parents! Here are a few tips to help you and your kids get through this month and prepare yourselves for a great school year:

1) Adjust to traffic early, find alternate routes!

Tardies are not always a bad thing, but too many can be detrimental to your child's academics. If your student is struggling to get to 1st period and is receiving more than a couple of tardies, he or she can actually be put on academic probation, or even suspension for being late too often! Try your best to adjust to early morning traffic near the school. Dropping your child off a little distance away from the drop off loop and having them walk the rest of the way can make all the difference of them getting to class on time. If you're hesitant about having them walk in the traffic, try finding alternate routes! Often times most of the parents dropping off their children will go where most of the cars are, simply because it's the only way they know! But if you do a little research on Google Maps, you'll more than likely find another route that will take you to your child's school, and avoid all the traffic!

2) New School Year, New Student!

Trust us on this one, your child is NOT who they were a year ago. Passions can change, interests may shifts, questions will start to pop up in their head, anything can happen within a year! Your child may have played soccer all the way through elementary, middle school, and even a little bit of high school, but if they suddenly decide to drop it and try something completely new out of the blue, try your best to be open to it! They are young and they are CRAVING new experiences. 

"Support Your Children and their decisions. High

school is an emotional time for them, and all they

need is your absolute support."

- Cori McChesney Moniz,

(Mother of a child at Great Oak High School)

(Broker, Buyer Agent, Transaction Coordinator, Office Manager for The Nelson Realty Group)

We understand this may be a new step for even you parents this season, but why not take the opportunity to grow WITH your kids? Maybe you'll end up loving their new passion, maybe you won't. But while they're young, as long as it's positive, let's support them parents! Besides, wouldn't you want them to proudly say one day "My parents supported me in whatever I did."

3) Make a commitment to get plugged in this school year!

For some of you parents this tip may be irrelevant because you are already doing this, but for those of you who aren't, pay close attention. This may sound like crazy talk to some of you, but guess what, your kids WANT you to be a part of their academic life! The SEDL report, A new Wave of Evidence, found that students with involved parents, no matter their income or backgrounds, are most likely to:

  • Have better social skills, show improved behavior and adapt well to school.
  • Attend school regularly.
  • Be promoted, pass their classes and earn credits.
  • Earn higher grades and test scores, and enroll in higher - level programs.
  • Graduate and go on to post-secondary education.

Try your best to make this school year COUNT! Your child's 1st grade year or senior year of high school will NEVER happen again, so make the most out of it and you'll get the most out of it! 

4) News Flash: GRADE ARE NOT EVERYTHING!

Okay, you've probably established in your head at this point: "This is just crazy now." But WAIT! It's getting somewhere good right now. Now, the debate that "Grades are not everything" can be argued for HOURS over lunch with 5 different moms at Lazy Dog's Cafe at the Promenade Mall in Temecula, but let's end that debate right now. This back to school season, try to have the mindset that: GRADES. ARE. NOT. EVERYTHING. If your child is consistently slacking at school and refuses to put in their own effort, then a correct amount of push towards the right direction will snowball them back into the school groove in no time. It just takes a little patience and the right amount of advice to them to help them realize that their time in K-12 is sooo temporary. However, if their grades are doing OK and you recognize that they are putting in their own effort, do NOT give them more pressure! Your student has acknowledged the importance of school and their own grades, so let them earn it themselves without reaching for an expectation that was never what they were reaching for in the first place! 

(Courtesy of infogr.am)

If you take a look at the chart above, the Hudson Students' Sources of Stress reported that 90% of students were stressed because of school work. That is almost TRIPLE the amount of stress in any other parts of their young life! The lack of sleep, the constant pressure to do better, the competition of their peers, it all adds up. Our job as parents of these young millennials should be to encourage them and, even to a certain extent, help them relax in a time where the rest of the world is consistently telling them that they aren't good enough. You should be there #1 fan, biggest supporter, and most importantly, their home. 

 

So this back to school season, try to make some changes! Maybe you've been getting the same results every year and you just don't know what to do to help your child do better in school. Try some of these tips this season, and we guarantee it will make this school year MUCH more effective and productive. If you have some tips of your own that you'd like to share, or if you've made the commitment to try some of our tips this new school year, let us know in the comments down below! We wish all you wonderful families a happy and great new school year!

- The Nelson Realty Group